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Merry Christmas

Posted by ab39 on December 24, 2007

Thank you Jesus for sharing your

birthday with us! 

Merry Christmas to us all!

 

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Over Use of Words

Posted by ab39 on December 24, 2007

 

Words…..everyone has words that they overuse.  Like those of us who use the word “like” ten times in a sentence.  You know what I mean?  Oh….that’s another one….”You know what I mean?”  And there’s “all”.  “I’m all….and they were all, and then all of them…”  I have a friend who says “Literally” all the time.  For instance, she will say, “I literally froze to death.”  or “I literally starved to death that day.”  She doesnt mean “Literally” literally, because she did not literally freeze to death or literally starved!  She just literally exaggerates.  🙂 

Then there are those of us who run out of steam while talking and say, “….etc.” or “yada, yada, yada!”  Here at work, a gentleman came up to the front desk and was asking for directions and then began telling me a story of how he got lost once.  At the end of a sentence he actually said, “….dot, dot, dot.”  He said this instead of etc., or yada, yada, yada.  I of course thought this was funny.  He actually said his punctuation at the end of his sentence.  That is like me saying to my husband, “Do you have the time, quesiton mark?”  or how about, “You look great, exclamation point!” 

When I was in college, a group of us started the use of a word to proclaim all our emotions.  The word was “Tree”.  Strange, I know…….but, after awhile…it really became part of  our vocabulary.  If we were frustrated, “TREE!!!!”  If we were excited, “TREE!” 

I am just as bad as anyone else when repeating the same word over and over and over,….you know what I mean?  🙂

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Stressed is Dessert Spelled Backwards

Posted by ab39 on December 21, 2007

 Have you ever been soo busy, tired and stressed at the same time that it felt like your brain was going to melt and drip out of your nose?

Surprisingly, I am keeping my responsibilities and duties in check.  My normal daily brain function is what’s suffering as a result of the busyness, tiredness and stress-ed-ness.  You know what I mean?  Like, I walk around the house looking for my keys, and they are in my hand.  Or, I cant find my purse, and it is hanging off my shoulder.  OR…I say something to Bobby and then a minute later I say the same thing again.  He gives me a crazy, strange look.  I stop myself and ask him, “Did I just tell you that?”  And, he just nods as he starts laughing.  🙂

I need to start exercising.  They tell me it will give me more energy and will help me feel better.  But, I am stuck in this horrible cycle of not having the time and energy to exercise  so I can have more energy and feel better.  What do you do with that?  🙂

I really need to get my act together.  If my girls call you up because I dropped them off at the bus station instead of school, just do me the favor of picking them up and taking them to school for me.  🙂  Then, give me a call and let me know not to go back to the bus station to look for them when I realize what I have done.  🙂 

It’s just all crazy!  But….a good crazy!  Just have to laugh at myself!!!  🙂

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Do I Tell Them?

Posted by ab39 on December 21, 2007

 If you see food in someone’s teeth, you have to ask yourself: do I tell them?  This happened to me today.  A co-worker had food in her teeth.  She talked and talked to me telling me this long involved story.  Now, I dont know her real well, and she would not stop talking and all I could do was stand there and try not to stare….and try not to laugh.  If I tell her about the green specks in her teeth, then I have to help her locate it….”No, over there…”  and then I get to stand there and watch them try to dig it out with their fingernails.  Then, when they dont get it…or get it out….I get to stand there and listen to them suck on their teeth like trying to suck the food out of the stuck spot.  YUCK!  🙂

But, then I have to stop and wonder about myself.  When I walk around with food in my teeth, and no one tells me, I get embarrassed.  How long have I been walking around like that?  Who all saw me with the crud stuck in the cracks of my pearly whites?  There’s really nothing worse than coming home from work, looking in the mirror after a long day and seeing your lunch in your teeth.  Kind of like seeing someone with toilette paper on the bottom of their shoe.  It always gets a big laugh.  Because it’s toilette paper. And that is funny.  It always gets a big laugh!  You stand there and watch the person walk around with it flying off the back of their shoe and then it finally falls off and the next person walks up and steps on it and the whole scenario starts over again.  You just stand there watching it transfer from one person to the next.  You laugh and laugh about it all the way home.  Until you are getting out of your car and notice that the entire drive home you have been dragging your dress out the car door and now it is black…..not soo funny anymore.  🙂 

Soo, the question is….do you tell someone when they have food in their teeth?  Definetly if they are close to you…..how about those who are aquaintances and those you are just speaking to?  Not soo sure!  What do you think? 🙂

 

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Just Getting Started!!!

Posted by ab39 on December 21, 2007

  Yes….We are just getting started!  Today is Friday….Christmas is on Tuesday…..and we have not even bought for our girls yet.  BUT, we do have a plan!  🙂  Bobby and I sat up last night and went thru the girls Christmas wish lists and decided what we were going to get.  I made a list of each store and what we were getting in that store.  We are going shopping tonight and tomorrow and going to try and get it all done!  Neither one of us are big shoppers, but I actually am looking forward to getting our girls their Christmas, but not looking forward to traffic and long lines.  Hopefully by tomorrow night (Saturday), we will be all done and sitting down to wrap!  🙂  WISH US LUCK!  🙂

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Holidaze

Posted by ab39 on December 18, 2007

 Elf   I look forward to the holidays, and I dread them at the same time.  Thanksgiving comes and goes and then it’s time to prepare for Christmas.  Next thing I know, it will be the New Year.  It all goes by sooo fast!  Cooking, shopping, entertaining, cleaning, organizing, going to Christmas parties, Christmas musicals, including all our spiritual and personal rituals (Christmas Eve Services, Christmas Nativity Scenes, Christmas Music at church, Band concerts, Christmas Parade, etc.) that all are a part of our lives.  I love all of it…except maybe for the cleaning 🙂 .  But, I do have to admit…even tho I absolutley love Christmas, there are moments in it when I feel absolutley exhausted.  Every year when I take my Christmas tree down along with all of the decorations around our house, I vow that the next year will be different and that I will not allow myself to become sooo frazzled and tired. I vow that I WILL enjoy the Holidays and not just endure them…to rejoice in them, not simply react to react them.

Have you been out Christmas shopping in the past couple of days?  Well, here in Murfreesboro, it is just CRAZY!  The traffic is literally bumper to bumper, stores are filled with shoulder to shoulder shoppers, every register is open, the parking lots are filled….and I mean FILLED.  Merchants dont want us to rest.  They even want to loan us money so they can charge us interest. 

I work in the hospitality industry….working with the public on a daily basis.  This has been somewhat of a new task for me….working with the public.  I have noticed that during the holidays, attitudes seem to be a little different.  Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years….all suppose to be a happy time of year.  But people are impatient, in a hurry and angry. 

The girls and I went to Target tonight to get just a couple of things and of course it was quite a task to complete.  As you can imagine, the store was packed with lots and lots of Christmas shoppers.  We got our two things, looked for the shortest line at a register, and started standing waiting for our turn to pay.  Along came a lady with her basket and got in line behind us.  As the minutes passed and we had only moved a couple of inches, the lady behind us started to speak rather loudly.  She said, “This is ridiculous!  I hate this!  I dont have time to stand here!  Why cant someone open a line for people who are paying by checks so that those of us who arent dont have to wait on them?  I hate this…..I hate all of this!” and the conversation….with herself….continued.  Leanna turned around and looked at this lady…..and kept looking….or maybe I should say that she was staring.  I finally looked at her and told her to quit staring.  She looked at me and said, “Mom, I feel sorry for her.  She must not have Jesus in her heart.  She totally does not have the Christmas spirit.”  Now, I dont know if she had Jesus in her heart or not, but Leanna was right….at that specific moment, she did not have any Christmas spirit.

The more I thought about that lady, the more I told myself that I hope I never act like her……grumpy, complaining and talking to myself in public.  🙂  The girls and I talked about this poor lady on our way home.  All three of my girls told me that they thought she had forgotten the “Reason For The Season!” and that is Jesus birthday!  Without Jesus being born, we would not have a reason to shop and give gifts to others, but most importantly… we would not have the promise of eternal life. 

Soo, thank you to the grumpy lady at Target for reminding me of the importance and value of what Christmas really means!  I really appreciate it!  🙂 And I hope she has a wonderful Christmas….wherever she is!  🙂

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Feeling Lonely

Posted by ab39 on December 11, 2007

 Best Friends 1 I’ve been feeling lonely lately.  Bobby and I have made some hard changes in our life this year….and as I have stated before….we have more changes that we know of still ahead of us.  With one of those changes, life became drastically different for me….for us.  You see, several of my closest friends have left my life this year.  I think they would say that they havent left….that I am the one who left….but, for me personally, it is not the same and it has been very hard on my heart.  Bobby and I both had not realized how much of our social life revolved around our church….which is not a bad thing….but, when you make a decision to visit around and look around…..we all of a sudden did not have that social life anymore.  I have been praying for a long time for God to bring some new Godly women into my heart and life.  We as women are such social beings – we need that close, intimate socialization and friendship.  We need other women in our lives to hang out with, to talk with, and to rely on.  Right now, I dont have that.

PLEASE dont get me wrong – yes, I still have friends.  I have friends at work, at churches and several around town.  Yet my heart desires a few “best” buds.  Those who you can laugh and be silly with – those who are there for you and your family when you need them – those who you just “click” with.  They can see you at your best, and see you at your worst….and not be judgemental….love you no matter what.

I have always been blessed to have very precious people in my life.  I still have them.  The thing is, that because of God moving us in a different direction right now…..those people are not around.

I have been praying about this for quite awhile.  And I am not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me.  Absolutley NOT!  Deep friendships can not be forced – they will take time and God will bring those dear friends into my life at His timing (which is always perfect!) and in His way.  Yet, I think that it needs to be okay for women to say “I’m Lonely!” without feeling like a reject.  It is not always a reflection on you – sometimes it is just circumstances that have taken intimate friends out of your life.  And it is okay to desire close friends in your life.  You dont have to act needy or desperate to acknowledge that you need that in your life.

I have realized and figured out that God is teaching me valuable and hard lessons right now…Relying on Him is definetly something He is making clear to me.  But, I do miss certain things….I miss having women that I can count on.  I miss having a girldfriend call me up or check in on me.  I miss being able to laugh and be all silly with someone else. I miss having families over to hang out with my family.  I miss it all….plain and simple!

I seem to have been a friend for the most part that has been there for others when they have needed me.  I love being that kind of friend – dont get me wrong.  My heart has always wanted to be that kind of friend for others.  But now – I just really desire an equal friendship with a few other women.  Women who inspire me in the Lord and who I can inspire.  Women who love their husbands and are trying their best to raise their children in the admonition of the Lord.  Women who can come to my home and not to be “entertained”.  Women who dont already have best friends so that they dont have room (or time) for me or my family.  Women who remember me….when a cookout happens, a movie comes out, shopping is calling….or anything else.  Just to be remembered!  Women who dont mind how far away their house is across town from mine.  Women who respect the differences in our personalities and character – so that neither one of us has to judge the other – but can enjoy one another.  Women to cry with, laugh with, be sick with, and be embarrassed with. 

For whatever reasons – God is walking me through this time in my life without a best friend – or two – or three!  🙂

SOOO, I will wait on the Lord….and I will trust in Him and His plans.  But I also want to be honest.  And for today – I just want to acknowledge that I need some best friends in my life.  It would sure be great if God chose to send them to me soon… 🙂

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Christmas Parade

Posted by ab39 on December 11, 2007

 Band 

  We went to the Christmas Parade yesterday here in Murfreesboro.  What a fun time we had!  The main reason we went was to see Olivia.  The Blackman High Marching Band played in the parade and they did a great job!  The parade route was over 3 miles, and several of the highschools had their bands march.  It all would have been fine if we had not had unseasonable warm weather …. it was a balmy 76 degrees and there was humidity that was pretty thick!  We chose to sit up on the square, which was basically the end of the  parade route.  By the time the band got up there….the kids were exhausted!  With the heat and wearing those heavy band uniforms….their faces were all red, they were sweatty, and you could tell they were wore out!  BUT…..they did an awesome job!  It was sooo much fun to see Olivia and some of her friends playing Christmas music.  I was a proud momma!

Way to go Blackman Band!  Once again, you did an amazing job! 

Marching Band

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Marriage Is Hard Work!

Posted by ab39 on December 8, 2007

 On The Cheek

 

Marriage is hard work!  The past year has brought many changes for my husband and I.  It has been interesting to see and realize how much my husband loves me and has stood up for me.  We have been married 16 years, and I remember during the first years of our marriage it was anything but wonderful.  We had a lot of differences between us, and I worked hard at trying to change him…trying to make him what I thought he should be.  A lot of men and women struggle with the differences they see in their partners.  Just because I prefer to do something one way, and my husband prefers to do it another way – does not make one of us right and one of us wrong.  It simply showcases our differences.  This is an area in our marriage when we were first married where I definetly messed up and took to an extreme.  We, as women, are bad for trying to change our husbands.  I know that we fuss at them, and insist on them doing things our way.  We can be soo hard on our spouses.

I have been learning something along the way.  If I try and mold him into the ideal of what I think he should be, then he would cease to exist.  My husband has soo many qualities and characteristics that are good for me.  He complements my style, my personality and oftentimes is the exact thing that is needed to make me stop and listen to common sense.  I cant tell you how many times he has bravely or lovingly voiced his thoughts that were contrary to my own.  And I NEEDED to hear them…whether I wanted to or not. 

It has occured to me that I am very grateful that my hubby is different than me.  It can be uncomfortable and frustrating at times, but it is only up to each one of us to individually make the choice to change.  Once I stopped nagging and trying to change him, and started focusing more on myself and my actions, things seemed to be calmer between us and in our home.  We will only answer to God for the things we have done…not the things that our husband has done.  Redirecting my focus off of him and onto what I need to be doing took a load off of our marriage. 

SOOO, let each other be who they are.  Pray for each other and love each other despite their flaws.  Listen to what each other has to say – for the other person may truly know what they are talking about.  After all, no one knows you better than the one you live with!  Be free to be whom God created you to be whether or not your spouse agrees with all of your thoughts, actions, or “particulars”.  I have learned that I value my spouse a lot more by having them be “them” instead of just another copy of “me”. 

I sure do love my hubby….I am IN LOVE with him.  He is wonderful to me and takes care of me.  I am blessed to know him and to be a part of his heart.  I guess you could say that I am definetly one lucky girl!  🙂

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Abby’s Bully

Posted by ab39 on December 3, 2007

 Embarrassed “Mom, I think I have a bully.  He just wont leave me alone and I am starting to get tired of it”  This is what our Abby said when she finally came to me and told me about a young man in several of her classes.  We talked about it for a few minutes, then she decided to let him know that he was not funny, he was upseting her and he needed to leave her alone.

A few days passed and I got a phone call from Abby.  She was at school and this boy had gone to far.  She called in tears and the “MOMMY” in me came out!  When I got Abby home, she then begin to tell her father and I how this boy was hurting her.  “Hurting YOU?”  Bobby and I both said.  She then began to explain to us how he would always punch her in the arm, was constantly pulling her hair, picking up her books and dropping them on the floor, pulling her book mark out of her reading books so that she would loose her space and pushing her when he would see her in the hallway.  BUT, what sent Abby over the edge was when she came into class and approach her seat, he would scoot his chair out and push her against her desk with his chair.  This would pin her in….the back of his chair either in her back or stomach….pushing the whole time……causing pain.  —–  This of course, sent Bobby over the edge and he was ready to go to school with Abby to meet this young man.

We talked to Abby for a few minutes about how we should handle this situation.  She asked if I would email her homeroom teacher about it….if this did not help, then she wanted us to come to school to speak with her teacher.  She ended it all with, “Mom, I feel terrible for ratting him out, and I think he thinks it is all a joke and funny…it’s just that I am tired of it.  But, I really dont think he is trying to be mean.”

The next day, I emailed Abby’s teacher and told her what Abby had shared with us.  The teacher was quick in responding to our email and said she would look into it.  A couple of hours passed and I heard back from the teacher who told us that this young man had been “talked” to.  The teacher said she believes this young man has a crush on Abby. She went on to explain to me that she thought this was his way of flirting with her.  Abby came home from school and told us that he had apologized to her and she thought things would get better.

Flirting with her?  Really?  Is this how 8th grade boys flirt? I guess so.  🙂  SOOO….Abby has had her first bully/crush/flirting boy of the year that got our attention.  Of course, Abby has had several young men who want her attention, but her daddy is not real fond of any of it!  To think of it….neither am I!  🙂

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